My birth story:: welcoming our second son

Hi everyone,

I hope you’re well. As many of you may know, we finally became a family of four two weeks ago! As promised, I’m going to share my birth story with you today.

Ace Tyler Tse came into this world on April 9th at 5 am and weighed 3262 grams. He arrived 5 days beyond my due date.

If I’m brutally honest with you, I was so DONE being pregnant at this point. I was so ready for the baby to come out! I just never thought Ace would arrive later than the expected due date. Now before you are going to say that due dates are simply an estimate—yes, I’m aware of that..However, as I was getting so close to the end of the pregnancy, l couldn’t help but feel anxious..When will the baby come out?

April 2nd:: the day I got to know what a sweep is
I went to my 39+ weeks check-up. My midwife suggested me to get a membrane sweep next week Tuesday if the baby’s still not making a movement to come out..I’ve never had a membrane sweep as Aiden (my first) arrived before my due date. My midwife explained the procedure of getting a sweep to me. I left with a strange feeling in my stomach. Getting a membrane sweep? Sounds scary and that’s absolutely NOT what I wanted!

April 4th:: due date
Officially due today and no signs of labour. Though I’ve tried to stay positive, I felt disappointed at the same time. I’ve tried everything in order to induce my labour naturally..from using acupressure to eating spicy food..Nothing actually worked (at least for me it didn’t). Despite feeling defeated, Wai and my little sister were able to give me a pep talk. I NEED to think positively, re-energize myself by going back to the gym. Call me crazy, but staying productive so I can clear my mind was something I really need at that time.


April 7th:: the day I changed my mindset
Still no signs of labour..I couldn’t help but notice the date of getting a membrane sweep is only two days away. Jeez. Do I really NEED a sweep?! The more I think about it, the more anxious I got.
In the meantime, I’ve read some articles which were written by fellow moms-to-be. They’ve shared their experiences on how they have triggered their labour contractions naturally. Some say they’ve danced/worked out the whole day, took long walks and some even gardened the entire afternoon. Not sure if that makes sense, but it was safe to say that they were all “active” before their labour started. After reading these articles I decided to be even more active the next day.

April 8th, 9th:: the evening I started to get real contractions + the night I went into labour
7 am: I woke up early and I started to do a 20 min prenatal dance/cardio workout at home. It was intense but it was worth the try!
10 am : went to the gym, did some safe pregnancy workouts while my little sister was babysitting Aiden.
11:15 am: Wai and I took a 30 min walk in the park, which was relaxing and fun at the same time. When was the last time I actually spent some real quality time with my husband?
6 pm: went to my sister’s place to have dinner with the whole crew.
8 pm: got back from home. I was exhausted. Took a hot shower before I went to bed.
9:47 pm: I suddenly felt a sharp pain in my lower back. It lasted for a couple of seconds. Was it a…? I told Wai and he immediately jumped off the bed: “who knows! It could happen tonight! Let’s time it!”
(Fyi, the labour is about to start if the contractions come every 5 minutes and they last for about a minute)
9:55 pm: my lower back hurt again..I wasn’t so sure, but this does feel like a real contraction, but it was still manageable. Yes!! Maybe it’s about to start! But then..it suddenly subsided. Huh?! I’ve waited for another 5-10 minutes, but no results. As disappointed as I was, I went back to sleep.
10:21 pm: the pain returned.
10:30 pm – 00:31 am: the contractions came back every 10 min..but still..why didn’t my water break?
00:49-2:34 am: the contractions got stronger and this time they came every 5 minutes and lasted for at least 1 minute. It was finally time to call my midwife, though my water still didn’t break.
3:02 am: my midwife arrived and examined my cervix for dilation. I was already 5-6 cm dilated at that time, which meant we can finally go to the hospital! The labour is about to start! I couldn’t be any happier.

Unlike the first time, everything happened so fast. Wai and I arrived at the hospital at around 3:24 am and my midwife immediately helped me to break my water. She suggested me to take a hot shower afterwards so I could decrease the pain.

At around 4 am I was having a hard time focusing on my breathing technique as the contractions got stronger and stronger. Just like the first time, I didn’t get any pain killers. Boy did I regret it! The pain got SO intense. Yes, the struggle was real. Jeez why do I have to act so bravely? What was I thinking?!
At 4:50 am, I was fully dilated and I could finally push. “Push….push…just push a little further,” my midwife said. I’ve tried to push as hard as I could, but boy I was exhausted and scared! Does this mean it takes forever in order to get the baby out?! And what about tearing? I suddenly freaked out and it felt like I lost all my power. “Where are you afraid of?,” my midwife asked. I was like, errr…tearing?!

I’m so grateful to have Wai by my side during the entire labour. I honestly think I wouldn’t have done this without him. He held my hand the entire time and squeezed it from time to time, meaning I’m here for you, you can do this! 
“I can see his head already and he has a lot of hair,” he whispered. His words gave me encouragement and after a couple of more pushes – only about 10 minutes to be precise – Ace finally arrived.
“Here’s your baby!,” my midwife immediately passed Ace to me. I couldn’t stop crying. Our second son is finally here! “Well done, my love. I’m so proud of you,” Wai said and he kissed my forehead gently. I felt like I was the happiest wife and mom in the world..A whole new chapter in our lives has just begun!

P.S. I was able to avoid the membrane sweep. Thank goodness! So if you ask me: do I believe in miracles? Hell yes I do.

P.P.S. For the preggy mommies out there, stay productive as much as you can! Go for a (long) walk or workout if you’re still able to do so! You can do this! Sending much love and positive vibes your way! x

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Until next time,

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32 Comments

  1. Lisa Autumn May 2, 2019 / 5:17 pm

    Oh my god.. congratulations! He is perfect :)

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 2, 2019 / 5:42 pm

      Thank you so much Lisa! So sweet of you :) xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:30 pm

      That’s very kind of you, thank you so much Elena!

  2. WhiteTulips May 5, 2019 / 9:34 am

    Congrats! You look so so happy <3 I wish you all the best

  3. lizbreygel May 6, 2019 / 8:49 pm

    Congratulations to happy family and young mommy! I’m wishing you and your baby strong health and happy life full of joy :)

    Lots of love ♥ January Girl

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:32 pm

      That’s so sweet of you, thank you so much!

  4. WhatWouldVWear May 6, 2019 / 9:29 pm

    OMG! Congrats again, V!!! Ace is such a cutie and your story reminded me of my own! Also, did you know that my 2nd was born on the 4th? Both of our children have similar birthdays!! WOW!!
    Anyhow, I am so happy for you!! These pics are so precious and Ace is such a CUTIE!!!!!!!!!

    Happy Monday, babe!
    xoxo, Vanessa
    http://www.WhatWouldVWear.com

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:33 pm

      Hahaha I know right! We have so much in common! Thanks for your warm wishes V! Sending much love your way :) xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:33 pm

      Thank you so much, I truly appreciate it!

  5. Style Appetite May 9, 2019 / 4:05 pm

    Oh Congratulations again for you and your little family!!! :) so happy for you and what a cutie ♥
    ..and yes- I can only imagine how stressed and anxious you were. Even though its the second birth, I can only imagine what kind of high and lows someone is experiencing :)

    All the best for you!!!

    xxx
    Tina

    https://styleappetite.com

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:34 pm

      Thank you so much Tina! Hope you are having a lovely week so far! x

  6. Sofia May 9, 2019 / 4:38 pm

    He’s gorgeous and you’re a beautiful mama too. Congratulations to the family.
    You didn’t get any painkillers? With for both births? Did I understand right? Chapeau to you xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:37 pm

      Haha you’re definitely the sweetest, thank you for your warm wishes Sofia! And yes, I went au natural for both births! It wasn’t the best choice, but I survived! xx

  7. Jessica May 11, 2019 / 7:33 am

    He’s so precious! Thanks for the beautiful read dear. Congratulations on your beautiful family!
    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:38 pm

      Thank you so much Sonia! xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      May 29, 2019 / 2:38 pm

      Thank you so much Melina! Glad you liked it! x

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