Cheers to 2019 :: learning to love yourself (more)

Happy 2019! May this year be filled with love, joy, peace, happiness and health! Have you set your intentions for 2019 yet? I’ve planned to cultivate more self-love (and self-care) in my life.

Self-love?! I know, this whole self-love thing sounds a bit spiritual-ish, but I’m here to tell you that it’s not. And actually it’s very essential in our lives. Now, when you hear the word “self-love”, you are probably associating it with the word “selfish”. That doesn’t sound good, right? Well, I also thought they had a similar meaning until I wanted to learn more about the differences between those two. Unlike selfish, loving yourself doesn’t take away from loving others, it goes much deeper than that.

For me, in short, loving yourself is having a deeper appreciation of who you are, having peace with yourself, accepting the whole “package”, without any judgement. That includes your imperfections, faults and weaknesses. And that, my friend, you’ll improve the quality of your life as you’ll make a better version of yourself, because..

..when you accept your whole self, you’ll respect yourself more. This also means you’ll be able to treat others with more love and respect. It will bring positive energy into your life and that will make you feel happier, too. It makes the whole world a better place, don’t you think?

..when you put yourself first, you’ll be able to focus more on others, like caring for them. A fellow instagrammer told me one of her life lessons was to take care of herself first before taking care of others’ well-being. This might sound selfish to you, but in fact it’s the complete opposite. Caring for others does require a lot of time and energy. And if you feel down or depressed, you’ll automatically put them down, which is not healthy either. So pay attention to your own needs. Listen to what your body and mind are telling you, take care of yourself before you start to help others.

..when you become more mindful of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour, you’ll become a happier and calmer person. You’ll be able to find out what you truly want in life. It also helps you to become more productive as you’re focused. And you’ll appreciate the simplest things in life more, such as enjoying a meal, try to eat slowly and take the time to savour every bite!

..when you maintain a healthy, strong and deep relationship with yourself, you’ll find peace within yourself – even when you make (or made) huge mistakes in life. You’ll understand there’s no such thing as perfect and those mistakes are one of those things that made the person you are today. The deeper your knowledge of yourself, the more engaging your relationships with others will be. I know it’s not easy peasy, but try to stop criticizing yourself, embrace your imperfections and accept your fears, faults and weaknesses!

Have you practised self-love yet? How will you love yourself more today?

Also, I’d like take the time to thank you for your love and support in 2018. It truly means a lot to me. Thank you so much, sending lots of love and hugs your way! ♡

I’m wearing (non-maternity wear)
Mango blazer
Mango trousers
Zara sock heeled boots
Saint Laurent bag
Uniqlo heattech scarf

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Until next time,



  1. Liz January 14, 2019 / 11:04 am

    The older I get, the more I appreciate myself and people around me!
    Thank you for the post!

    Lots of love ♥ January Girl

  2. roseline January 16, 2019 / 5:10 am

    I love this coat. the way you dress looks perfect.

    Would you like to follow each other? If the answer is yes, please follow me on my blog & I’ll follow you back.

  3. Nichole | Wildly Alive February 4, 2019 / 4:18 pm

    I definitely agree! Self love isn’t selfish at all. The more we accept ourselves for who we are, the more we love and respect ourselves and to other people. And that’s important. We can give love to others if we have enough love to ourselves. Thank you so much!

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