What to do when you are feeling stuck and uninspired

If you’re following my journey on social media, you may notice that I haven’t updated it for a while (I apologize for being absent, not responding messages/comments, please bear with me). It’s not that I don’t have anything to say, in fact, there are a lot if topics I’d like to discuss. It’s just that I’ve been feeling quite stuck lately. And I think it all started when I came back from vacation. Back to the reality, back to our daily routine. Getting up early — going to work — heading back home — quality time with fam. Day in, day out. I suddenly felt anxious and so tired. No, I was literally knackered. I was like “wait, that’s it?! So this is how my routine is going to look like for the rest of my life? Only work and spending too little time with my fam? What’s the meaning of life then? How can I “split” myself in half in order to get more time?” Not sure if this is a sign of a quarter life crisis, but I knew it was time to take a break so I can get rid of these negative thoughts and set things right. Although I’m still struggling to find a good balance between work and personal life, I’m feeling a lot better (compared to how I felt over the past couple of weeks).

Now, we all have those kind of moments. So here’s the thing: I believe that if you’re doing things consistenly (on a daily basis) and if there’s a sudden change in your routine (whether it’s good or bad), you may feel a little confused or even frustrated. And that’s because you want to stick to your daily routine. So when you’re about to jump back into your old routine, you’ll probably notice things may turn out in an unexpected way — and if one thing went wrong and another (bad) thing would follow, you may feel like you’re doing anything wrong. You’re questioning yourself what you’re actually doing all the time, is it worth doing it? Having that said, it’s completely ok to have your highs and lows. We’re humans after all, right? So when you are facing a problem or a struggle, take the time to take a few steps back, get rid of the negative thoughs, try to clear your head. During my period of feeling stuck, I did a few things which actually helped me to get unstuck, motivated and inspired again. If you want to know what it is, keep on reading.

1// go offline from time to time

Yes, this is a major thing and that’s why I want to mention it first. Please ask yourself how many times do you check your phone/tablet in a day? Reading the news, checking emails, Whatsapp messages/calls, Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, Twitter you name it. Not to mention those notifications. Pop pop pop pop. Yes, you’re constantly connected to your phone. During that period I felt anxious when I saw notifications popping up all the time. It drove me crazy. So I turned those off and I only replied to messages during a certain time of period. And when my phone was about to run out of battery power, I didn’t freak out (I usually would). Instead, I just let it ‘die’. By going offline, you’ll notice all the (little) things that are passed over every day or week, plus you’ll be able to focus more on your needs.

2// reading books

If I’m being honest with you, I love collecting books but I happened to find out I don’t have much time to read. I know, sounds quite confusing right? However, during that unmotivated period I loved reading books about self care and mindfulness. It makes me feel relaxed and it also gives me the opportunity to see things from a different perspective, particularly when it comes to my career. I’m currently reading the international bestseller ‘Things you can only see when you slow down’ by Haemin Sunim. I can understand why this book is a bestseller (nearly three million copies of the book have been sold worldwide!), I can learn so much from this author/book and I’m sure you’ll love it too. I highly recommend it. Another book that’s on my reading list is ‘The life-changing magic of tidying up’ by Marie Kondo.

3// time to yourself

Time to yourself, having me-time, spending time alone, they all mean the same thing and I know I’ve already mentioned it before. Spending time alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely or feeling depressed. In fact, having me-time allows me to get a better understanding of what person I am and what I want in life. It’s the perfect moment to clear my mind. Another thing I enjoy being alone is the fact that I don’t need to talk. I just love these quiet moments from time to time.

4// learn from children

Do you have children? Brilliant! It may sound odd, but did you know a child can teach an adult so many things? Children are not afraid of trying out new things. They don’t know what failure means, they make friends easily, they tend to forgive and forget everything quickly. I love to see how Aiden interacts with other children and how he uses his imagination to enjoy the little things. By observing (your) children you’ll also be able to become more courageous, confident and whow knows a light bulb will pop straight afterwards.

5// talk about your feelings

This sounds so obvious, but did you know there are a lot of people who are having a hard time talking about their emotions? I always talk to my sisters and best friends whenever I’m feeling troubled or down. Talking about how you feel doesn’t mean you show your weakness to others. In fact, it makes you feel less alone and supported. Though my sisters could not always help me right away, it’s always good to have a few great listeners around.

I hope these tips are useful when you are feeling unmotivated, uninspired or stuck. Have you got any tips that help you to get unstuck/motivated again?

I’m wearing
Zara blouse
Zara denim skirt
Céline bag
Adidas sneakers
Femme des Fleurs necklaces

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Until next time,

20 Comments

  1. Hui September 1, 2018 / 9:06 am

    When you think about there’s always that one person that will always have your back.

    Leuke outfit 💛 it

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 9:12 am

      Thanks meis! Je bent echt heel lief! xx

  2. Boon Kua September 1, 2018 / 8:41 pm

    Writing can be therapeutic too. Time to yourself is really important though I discovered it much later in life. I never thought it was necessary until I “had” it.

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 9:20 am

      Thanks for your tip, Boon and so sorry for my late reply! Hope all is well with you! xx

  3. Jessica September 3, 2018 / 3:26 am

    This is such a wonderful read dear. And I couldn’t agree more, especially when it comes to children. They see the world differently, and they appreciate mundane things way different than adults do. We could definitely learn from their fresh point of view of the world.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:05 am

      Thank you so much for leaving a comment, Jessica! I hope all is well with you! xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:11 am

      Thank you Katya! Glad you liked the tips! xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:37 am

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me Yuliya! Hope all is well with you! xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:40 am

      Thank you so much Len! x

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:40 am

      That’s very sweet of you, thank you so much! x

  4. Style Appetite October 8, 2018 / 2:10 pm

    Such a great look (loving your bag!!) and the tips are brilliant too!
    I usually also like to go offline or – the total opposite – get some inspo from Pinterest and Instagram ;)

    xxx
    Tina

    http://styleappetite.com/

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:41 am

      Thanks for sharing your tips with me Tina! Much appreciated! xx

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:43 am

      Thank you so much Olivia!

  5. Chanel October 30, 2018 / 6:32 pm

    Thanks for being so transparent, Vivian. I love these tips. Especially learning from children. They have so much life and ideas its amazing. Wishing you lots of clarity and peace on your journey.

    x,
    S | Je M’appelle Chanel

    • Vivian Tse
      Author
      December 3, 2018 / 10:49 am

      That’s very kind of you, thank you so much babe! I’m feeling much better now and I’ve learned a lot about myself during my social media break. Hope all is well with you! x

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