I hope you are having an amazing summer so far! I’m a firm believer that anyone will change when you reach a certain stage of life – no matter what age you are, whether you are a child, an adoslescent or an adult, the way how you look at life changes. And I think it’s completely natural, it’s a part of life.
It’s no surprise motherhood has changed me in profound ways. Now, I’m not talking about body changes, fatigue, sleep deprivation or the likes or dislikes of being a parent, I’m talking about my personality and even my perspective on life. It has completely changed in unexpected ways and I didn’t realize it until my family told me so. The way I talk, the way I react..some are good, some are so-so (but hey, we’re all perfectly imperfect right?). Anyway, here are some ways on how motherhood has made me put things into perspective.
I’m more straightforward in expressing my opinions. I speak up more than I did before. If I don’t like something, I’d say it. And this is something very new to me. When I was younger, my parents taught me not to say something in a direct way — it’s something Chinese people don’t do, it’s impolite, we (Chinese people) just don’t like these kind of straightforward conversations.
I never thought I could do this, but I’m able to cultivate more patience (unless situations get really out of control). Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have bad temper issues before I got Aiden, but I could get easily annoyed when things didn’t turn out as planned. Now, I’m more flexible, I have learned to count to 5 so I won’t reach the limit of my patience that quickly.
This goes often with #1. Being straightforward means I’m being responsible and honest. It’s like speaking the truth, telling how I think, how I feel. To me, being honest is also a way of showing my respect to others.
4// less judgemental
I admit, I hate how judgemental I can be sometimes. And the truth is, we, human beings, are judgemental even though we don’t like to admit this. When it comes to parenting, it’s also natural to have thoughts about other people’s parenting methods if they are (slightly) different from your own. I can still remember that moment when I was pregnant, I saw mothers who let her kids eat with their hands, eating food off the floor or allowing co-sleeping and I was like: I’d never ever do that to my child, nope, never in a million years. Now, I want to take back my words. Being judgemental makes you and others unhappy and let’s be honest: it wouldn’t add any value, right? So why not being more loving? Be gentle and accept that everyone has a different parenting style. Since I experience this myself, I’m less jugdemental, I focus more on Aiden’s needs than having an opinion on others.
What is the one thing that changed your perspective on life (once you became a parent)?
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Until next time,