Hi. It’s been awhile. Hope you’re well :)
You may wonder where I have been for the past few months. After giving birth to Aiden, I was forced to take things slow again — listening to my body, clearing out my mind, getting used of having a baby.
Adjusting to life with a newborn was really challenging. I was exhausted, felt like a walking zombie and I was on an emotional rollercoaster too. I remember I texted one of my mom friends in the middle of the night saying it was so hard, I barely slept as I got to nurse Aiden every two hours. My friend understood me as she also had been through that stage before. N: “everything’s going to be alright, it will be worth it”.
Of course, I knew she was right. But it was hard to believe that it will be ok at that time..
Sitting the month
Not sure if you’re familiar with this, but in the Chinese culture, there’s a tradition to new moms. I couldn’t leave the house for a full freaking month (also known as “sitting the month”). Mannn it was intense! I’m not that kind of person who likes to stay at home all the time, let alone 30 days! Hate to say it, but it felt like spending a month in prison on a “ginger diet”. Say what? Ginger? Yes, ginger. Chinese people are obsessed with ginger. I haven’t seen so much ginger in my entire life. I’m not exaggerating, ginger was everywhere! My family made a lot of dishes with ginger, I ate ginger rice, ginger vinegar soup, I washed my hair with ginger, took a shower with ginger and so on. It was literally eat, breathe and sleep with lots of ginger.
Besides the ginger madness, there were other rules to follow, too. I wasn’t allowed to eat or drink while standing, my mother-in-law said: “sitting in the month literally means sitting. Whatever you do, do it in a sitting position”. Eating cold fruits, salad, cookies, ice-cream, bread, drinking tea, coffee or cold fluids, doing light exercises, watching TV, using my phone or laptop were also an absolute no-no. “No no no, you may not eat this, you may not drink that. You can only do this and that.”
Now you are probably wondering what’s all the fuss about these things? Chinese people believe it can restore your (inner) balance in your body by following these rules. I have to admit I only followed those rules for a little more than two weeks. I couldn’t take it anymore. It drove me crazy! I secretly took non-ginger showers, washed my hair with shampoo, drank cofee and I even ate ice-creams.
I came back to life right after I finished my sitting the month. Well, actually I thought I was.
I got used to Aiden’s routine. He sleeps most of the days, barely cries. He only cries when he’s hungry or wet. So I was able to plan my schedule full for the upcoming 4 weeks. Catching up with friends, planning visits, brunches and outdoor activities, blogging, doing some light exercises, household chores, etc. Easy peasy, right? “Are you sure you’re alright?”, Wai always asked. “Yep pretty sure! It feels good to have something to look forward to! I need to do the things I love before my maternity leave is over!” Having a full schedule isn’t new to me. I’ve always had one before I got Aiden. Plus, I deserved this as I survived 30 days in prison! Little did I know I may have gone a bit too far..
Spending most of my time outside was fun. It truly was. But my body has overworked. My tirdeness got worse. I started to feel dizzy and got pain in my wrist too. How come I can’t handle these things anymore? I was disappointed at myself, if felt like a failure.
I knew it was time to take some serious rest before I would really pass out. Again, listening to your body is so so important. Having a happy, easy baby doesn’t mean my body isn’t tired at all. After all, I still have to entertain my little boy when he’s awake. So what I have learned is, taking a good rest from time to time isn’t a bad idea at all. And it’s alright to have nothing planned for the next few weeks. In fact, I’m now able to find a good balance between family, health and other activities.
So here I am, alive, learned from my mistakes..But I’m back — recharged (not fully charged though..broken nights you know) and I’m feeling great. I started to work out again (need to get rid of that post-baby belly!), I’m taking a break from time to time and I go back to work in 2 weeks. As for Aiden, our little boy is doing so well. He is almost 100 days old! Can you believe it?!
Anyhow, it’s good to be back and I can’t wait to share more stories with you :)
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Until next time,